Recently a new discussion has started following an observation by High Court directing a wife to follow Sita’s example to follow her husband Ram to “Vanvaas”. A huge uproar raised, as expected, in feminist. Had they known the full essence of Sita’s character, they would have felt proud to be known as “the Sita”. She was so modern, liberated, contemporary and well ahead of Her time in her thoughts that would put todays so called feminist to shame.
To understand her strong character we have to trace her life from beginning. Her birth was as enigmatic as was her entire life. She is said to be not born, but appeared (Pragat), and appeared in what way and circumstances. The kingdom was suffering from famine from a long time and the king was advised to plough a field, though symbolic to ward off any bad omen. It was while ploughing the field that She appeared in a pitcher. She epitomed fertility, rains and thus prosperousness. The appearance was much celebrated-that of a girl, unheard even in times of today—the modern 21st century.
She took all contemporary education and was well versed with war skills. In her youth she playingly shifted the “Shiva’s Dhanush” triggering her “swayamvar”. When the king Janaka watched her feat he decided that the person who can also operate this Shiva’s Dhanush is only the right person to wed her.
All the warrior princes were gathered in Mithila. She met Rama in the garden in morning and both knew that they were made for each other. Here once again the strong character of Sita comes to fore. Since She was bind by the condition of “swayamvar”, She did not expressed her desire to anyone and quietly prayed in the temple and maintained Her silence. During “swayamvar” a lot of princes tried their hand in operating the Shiva’s Dhanush, but could not even shift it minimally. Then finally Rama rose on His Guru’s permission, not only operated but broke the Shiva’s Dhanush also. This act of breaking had a symbolic meaning. The Shiva’s Dhanush had not only become past by date but also acquired a symbol of “Abhiman”, which was necessary to be broken.
When Rama’s parents and other relatives came to Mithila for the royal wedding, She quietly called all Riddhis and Siddhis to take care of all the guests. All this was done very discretely, even Her parents didn’t know about it. Today, if someone does anything even small, wants to hog the credit but She didn’t let anybody knew her doings. She showed same trait when all Her mother in laws and other eminent citizen of Ayodhya came to visit Her in exile.
Her strong character comes to fore, when; due to conspiracies of throne accession Rama was exiled for fourteen years. She declared that She would accompany Her husband to exile. Immediately all hell broke loose as everyone opposed the idea of Her going to exile. Technically only Rama was exiled and there was no compulsion for her to accompany Him. She stood fast on Her stand and firmly but politely turned everyone around to Her point of view. At that time when social circumstances were such that a daughter in law didn’t have any voice, she had to face a lot of social opposition. She had to logically pacify Her mother in law, Guru and finally Her husband Rama. There was a further catch: She had to relinquish all royal comforts and go to Vanvasa as a sadhvi. She was supposed to wear Valkal Vastras, sleep on floor and have Kand Mool as her food. Anybody could not imagine the inhabitable condition of the forests at that time. She had the choice, enjoy all comforts of Royal Palace, but she chose hardships instead.
During Vanvasa, a time came when Rama had gone after the Swarna Mriga and it seemed that He had fallen into some danger, She didn’t hesitate to send Laxmana after Him, even She had to scold Him for that.
Now comes the most crucial phase of Her life. Ravana came immediately to Her hut and asked for alms, as soon as both brothers were absent, gone after Swarna Mriga. Though She was alone She was not scared to come out of Laxman Rekha to give the alms. Ravana abducted Her and kept in Ashok Vatika. Again Sita was standing on a junction of two ways. Here was Ravana-the mightiest king and warrior of that time, and Rama-the exiled prince whose future was bleak then. Up till then each and every lady had succumbed to Ravanas desire. He had offered all wordly comforts to Her, including his wife to be made Her maid servant. She refused all offers. She, being in captive, had to speak to him but She maintained Her dignity by keeping a small piece of grass in between Her and him. She, even at the risk of losing Her life, had the temerity to compare Ravana to hare against Rama as lion.
She passed all her time in remembrance of Rama only all the time .When Hanuman came to explore Sita, He found Her in deep anguish and dejected. Sita, showing a quick presence of mind, asked hanuman to prove His credentials so that it is ensured that He has not been sent by Ravana as a ploy. Only when Hanuman showed His ID proof, the divine ring, which could be prepared by Rama only, then only She believed Him. She was such a good judge of character that even in a brief encountet with Hanuman, she knew the capabilities of Him and allowed Him to “destroy” Ashok Vatika. Later she gave Him Her Chudamani, as a remembrance to Rama for Her predicament.
Time passes, Rama killed the mighty Ravana and conquered Lanka. A high voltage drama unfolded and the world listened the most shocking thing. Sita had to undergo “Agnipariksha”, a trial by fire to prove her purity and innocence. Not only Laxman, but all Vanara warriors were aghast on this proposal. But it had deeper meaning, things more than which meets the eye. Rama, the just king, that he was, wanted to absolve Sita of all allegations, doubts which could have cropped up later in people’s mind, and the Maryada Purushottam, that he was, wanted to upheld Sita’s dignity once and for all. Here one is introduced the strongest and fiercest aspect of Sita’s character. Just because She knew firmly in Her mind that She had not done anything wrong, not even in Her thoughts, not even in Her dreams, immediately agreed for “Agnipariksha”. She didn’t even once thought of Her possible annihilation, an act which might had wiped Her off from this earth. How many ladies today could have dared to go by this “Agnipariksha“, the trial by fire?
Thus we see that it takes a lot to be Sita, a true feminist, rather than raising hollow slogans.